The Competence Tax in Men: The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One
How High-Performing Men Lose Themselves in Strength, Silence, and Survival “The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us, but those who win battles we know nothing about.” Main Points The competence tax in men is the emotional, psychological, and relational price men pay for always being capable. It’s not burnout—it’s […]
The Unseen Weight of Always Becoming
What if the drive to constantly improve isn’t about growth—but about guilt? For many men, self-improvement isn’t a path to wholeness. It’s penance. A quiet attempt to fix what was never broken, to earn worth that should never have been in question. This blog explores the hidden toll of always striving—and the radical freedom of accepting our imperfect, human selves.”