Recreate a life that fits you now
Mentoring for men after major life change and grief.
Practical frameworks for making clear decisions and rebuilding the relationships that matter.
In person in Perth, or on Google Meet or Teams.
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Choose the topic that fits your situation. Each page gives you a short reading path and a clear next step.
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MIRF® Assessment and Personal Report
Make sense of where you are. Find a way forward.
The MIRF® Assessment offers men a private, practical way to understand where they stand and take meaningful steps towards rebuilding their confidence and direction.
What you'll receive:
36 THOUGHTFUL QUESTIONS
Around 10 minutes to complete.
YOUR PERSONALISED 24-PAGE REPORT
A clear picture of pressure, capacity and practical next steps.
FIVE KEY AREAS
Identity, pressure, understanding what happened, carrying responsibilities alone, and future direction.
A SUGGESTED 90-DAY PATHWAY
A practical framework for beginning to rebuild.
US$189 Personalised report included
The MIRF® Assessment is a mentoring and self-reflection tool, not a clinical or diagnostic assessment.
The cost no one sees
What happens when success costs your sense of self?
You’re the one people lean on.
The one who gets things done, even when you are exhausted.
The reliable one.
Underneath, something has changed that no one else can see.
- You’re exhausted from holding it all together.
- You’ve lost yourself in roles that no longer fit.
- You’re grieving something you can’t quite name.
You’re not alone in this.
What I Offer
Mentoring for Men at a Crossroads
This is mentoring. It is not therapy, and it is not coaching.
It sits between community support and clinical care. It is for men who are still functioning but carrying more than they show.
It’s grounded, confidential mentoring for men who want to reconnect with themselves.
Together, we map what happened and what it cost you.
Then we work out the first step back to clear decisions and self-trust.
Sessions run in person in Perth, or on Google Meet or Teams.
My work is
for men who are
- Tired of pretending everything’s fine
- Grieving the death of someone, something, or who they used to be
- Burnt out by roles, expectations, and emotional silence
- Rebuilding life after leaving religion or a former identity
- Looking for meaning beyond achievement
Who I Am
Mentoring from lived experience
I’m a former minister and a father whose son died.
I know what it means to lose the life you built and start again.
I trained as a psychiatric nurse.
I then spent more than thirty years in community and non-profit leadership.
My mentoring draws on:
Your story and how it has shaped you.
The strengths you already have.
What your emotions are telling you.
Someone alongside you, so you aren’t carrying it alone.
The work starts with who you already are.
Your values and experience come with you into what comes next.
Your values and experience come with you into what comes next.
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