Mentoring Through The Maze

The Father Wound in Men: Shame, Distance, and Hidden Grief.

The father wound in men often shows in early shame and emotional distancing represented by the man covering his face.

Main Points Men carry the father wound through their shame, not through their childhood stories. Shame starts as the boy’s attempt to stay safe — by tightening up, withdrawing, or showing strength — and becomes his default way of holding himself as an adult. Distance, numbness, responsibility, and emotional silence are not traits of personality; […]