Emotional Fusion in Men: When Caring Becomes Control
What if all that caring you call strength is just another cage? Main Point Many mistake emotional fusion in men for love. What feels like care is often control—an inherited pattern born in boyhood, where safety depended on keeping someone else stable. Real maturity begins not when a man manages better, but when he stops […]
Male Grief in Australia: Understanding How Men Grieve and Rebuild
Male Grief in Australia: How Men Reclaim Themselves Through Loss At-a-Glance Summary Core idea: Australian men grieve differently, often through silence, work, and duty — and these expressions deserve recognition, not correction. Why it matters: Misunderstanding male grief leaves many men unseen, unsupported, and silently suffering under outdated masculine scripts. What helps: Understanding instrumental vs. […]
Migration and Grief: How Displacement Shapes Men’s Hidden Sorrows
Seven Faces of Male Grief – Part 4 This is the fourth in my Seven Faces of Male Grief series, where I explore the hidden ways grief shows up in modern men’s lives — often masked as ambition, withdrawal, rage, or numbness. This article explores how migration and grief intertwine in men’s inner world. […]
Men Divorce and Grief: Healing After Love Ends
Main Points Men, divorce and grief are a potent mix that triggers a profound but often unspoken grief response in men. Men experience identity loss, loneliness, and silent suffering after separation and divorce. Divorce-related grief can begin before the relationship ends (anticipatory grief). Traditional masculinity can prevent men from seeking support. Healing after divorce means […]
Men’s Mental Health and Grief: The Life You Thought You’d Have
Main Points Mental Health and Grief can change your story. It can dismantle the life you imagined, the man you thought you’d be, and the sense of trust you once had in yourself. For many men, that loss hides beneath silence. We talk about symptoms, recovery, and resilience. But we rarely name what’s gone. What’s […]
The Competence Tax in Men: The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One
How High-Performing Men Lose Themselves in Strength, Silence, and Survival “The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us, but those who win battles we know nothing about.” Main Points The competence tax in men is the emotional, psychological, and relational price men pay for always being capable. It’s not burnout—it’s […]
The Performance Trap of Masculinity
Performing strength may keep you admired, but it won’t keep you whole. For men’s mental health to truly improve, we must stop pretending we have all the answers—and start living the questions that scare us.
Why Men Need Soul Mentoring—Not Just Success Coaching
This article explores the urgent need for soul mentoring for men today—an emotionally grounded, reflective alternative to conventional success-focused coaching. Drawing from the works of Thomas Moore, Carl Jung, and James Hillman, it guides men through grief, role fatigue, and spiritual disconnection, inviting them to rediscover meaning, emotional clarity, and soul presence.
Beyond Words: Men’s Untraditional Paths to Wholeness
“The body remembers what the mind forgets.” — Bessel van der Kolk. For years, men have been told, “It’s good to talk.” And for many, including myself, talking has been a lifeline. But what if words are not always enough? What if true healing lies in something deeper, something unspoken? I have seen this truth […]