Rebuilding Dignity After Loss: Grief and Shame in Men – The Lesson of Philoctetes
In Philoctetes, shame tries to turn a visible wound into a verdict about the man. After grief or loss—death, divorce, redundancy, illness—shame does the same for many men. It tried to turn what we have been going through into a verdict about who we “are” now. The lesson we learn from grief is the power […]
Self-Trust in Men After Grief: How Vulnerability Rebuilds Identity After Loss
Self-Trust in Men After Grief After a death or major upheaval, many men keep functioning while their inner framework stops fitting. The reality is, self-trust in men takes a hit. The roles still run — provider, partner, father, reliable worker — but the assumptions underneath them stop making sense. You can do everything “right” and […]
The Performance Trap of Masculinity
Performing strength may keep you admired, but it won’t keep you whole. For men’s mental health to truly improve, we must stop pretending we have all the answers—and start living the questions that scare us.
Vulnerability in Men: How Shame Builds Emotional Armour and How to Break the Pattern
If, as men, we are to reimagine healthy masculinity in the 21st century, we must accept what it means to be wounded and live within our woundedness until we are transformed into Wounded Healers who draw strength from our vulnerability rather than from a subverted heroic model of masculinity.